Some people don't think saying these things mean anything...it's not that serious... They assume once you say it and say sorry bygones will be bygones....but no! Your partner will always remember your words. Don't let any amount of see-finish make you start saying these yamayama things and if you already do, please stop!
"goat", "idiot"," mumu", "fool" ....mba nu. Don't do that. For some
people calling someone "goat" is not a big deal....you might have done
it growing up with your siblings or your close friends but please leave
it there. That is abuse...e nor good.
your spouse/partner is a ta-ta? Are you in a relationship with a
toddler? You shouldn't tell him/her to shut up. Communication is very
vital in a relationship and if you get it wrong o tan niyen. Give your
babe/bobo opportunity to speak and when they have aired their opinion
you can talk your own. Don't shut them up. It only builds resentment.
Woreva? Please don't say that. It is dismissing whatever the other
person is saying, no one likes to be dismissed like that. It is RUDE!
You should not be rude in your relationship. If you like what you are
building, then build it well.
Don't say it
unless you really want it to be over. Not every small quarrel over who
ate the last meat in the pot should warrant an "Its Over". If you keep
saying this 2 things will happen: 1. Your partner/spouse will become
very insecure in the relationship because they don't know if you're
coming or going. 2. They will never take you seriously and begin to look
elsewhere. Don't throw "It's Over" around.
at so and so", "why can't we buy a car like Mr and Mrs B", "Why can't
you be romantic like Mr Somebody." Don't do it. Comparisons in that
manner are not healthy. It would make your significant other think you
prefer whom they are being compared with. It's never a nice feeling. It
can mess with their self esteem.
something is worrying you but when your partner asks you say "nothing"
and then keep sulking. This will only push them away unless you have
someone who is patient enough to coax you out of that mood. But once
he/she knows that is your usual manner of saying "nothing" when truly
there is something, they will stop asking. You can say "I'm not ready to
talk now, maybe later".
I hope these gems help you build better relationships?
6 THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T SAY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Thursday, 14 June 2018