Bolouere (@Boluxxxx) has a point to make about keeping to the terms of the contract.
Code name; B.
B- Buxom, Bombshell, Brilliant, Boss, Buoyant, Brassy, etc. Did I just describe Beyonce? Naaa, that’s a B-word too. **chuckles**
I’ve been in constant reverie recently inspired by events, happenings,
doings, occurrences played out by females around me and I have decided
that we girls are responsible for our troubles, drama and heartbreak.
I have this friend who had been in the process of setting a certain P
for months. He was gonna be in some state in the Niger-delta region for
christmas where “Miss P” is resident and yes they planned a hook up.
Twas gon be sex, fun and games agreed. As his guy (yea I’m dyke in
attitude), he gave me the gist as things went on. They hooked up, did
all the had planned to, and finally had sex on christmas eve. Anyway’s
he pinged me on christmas morning and goes ” Bee, she wants ‘talk’.”. In
my mind I’m like “ghen-ghen, my guy don enter wahala”. We went on
chatting and about ten minutes later I’m like “is she still talking”? He
replied “yes”. I’m thinking WTF!!! Imagine me having a heart-to-heart
convo, the “talk” with a dude and he stays chatting on his phone, that’s
all the answer I need. (Well, that’s me). All the same, the summary of
Miss P’s talk was; define this relationship. My friend’s reply was, we
have a good thing going (sex) let’s not mess it up by starting something
Fastfoward two days, he sends me a voice note
he got from her. She cried on it, declared her love for him and said
she felt used. See something oh!! Whose fault is it you caught feelings
during an event that stated “strictly setting P”. He’s like “Bee what do
u think?” My verdict; she probably likes you, wants a relationship, is
automatically suffering from low self esteem because she f**ked you
(dumb) and crying on a voice note, that’s simply a symptom that’s she’s a
mildly psychotic chick (topic for another post). My guy, RUN. He did
Back to being responsible for our troubles as girls, much
to my awareness, most guys don’t lie about their “wants” these days. It
also doesn’t hurt to ask a guy what his intentions are if he suddenly
starts paying you plenty attention. If he says he wants to shag, he
means it oh. It’s left for you as the chick to decide whether you can do
just that or not. Going into sh*t like that thinking he might have a
change of heart and wife you is very unlikely and major self deception
especially if he was bold enough to state that all he wants is sex. Yes
we are human, yes we can’t help but fall for people at times. But he was
bold enough to say, just sex, and that’s all there might ever be to it
whatever you do. If you catch feelings, I’d love to say OYO but I’m nice
so I’ll say DEAL WITH IT. And by dealing with it I didn’t say go and
bombard peeople’s TL’s with irritatingly philosophical tweets like “why
do bad things happen to good people” or “treat girls the way you want
your sisters to be treated”. Personally I hate seeing such on my TL. It
can drive me to mentioning you to amadioha and his strike is more
painful than ASUU’s trust me. Get a grip, go about it in a mature
manner. If it gets too hard, talk to pals or axe ya mummy for tips.
My point (despite not being a feminist or softie)
is, I think we as girls have what it takes to run the world and handle
situations. If only we would man-up (ironic**sighs**) shun pettiness and
do just that.
Dear girls, we are beautiful and have more power
than we realise. Stop throwing blame flames at guys and hosting pity
parties when things come up. Let’s learn to tell the truth to ourselves
about situations and act accordingly not ruling out facts and reality.
More importantly, run YOUR world! Safe!!!
SEMI-RANT: DEAR GIRLS
Thursday, 12 April 2018