Relationship blogger and psychologist Joro Olumofin has advised Nigerian men not to start with spending money or projecting wealth to any lady they are interested in.
Based on Psychological principles such as "Primacy
rule", & "Learning Theories", the first stimulus you present in an
experiment if pleasurable must be repeated or continued if you want to
keep your test subjects interests remaining intact. I.e if you start
with something; that's what you will be remembered for and also you must
continue it because that's the basis Or foundation of your
relationship. This being said, a lot of men today are guilty of throwing
money, gifts, iPhone, bags, shoes, perfumes first at women before even
forming any " intellectual or mind connection" with their love interest.
These same men later complain that ladies ask them for money too much,
these ladies present them with a reservoir of requests & when
there's no money or gifts there's nothing to talk about. FRIENDSHIP
SHOULD COME FIRST BEFORE SPENDING MONEY. The major problem with our
generation regarding relationships is that " sex " is now synonymous
with "money". Men believe that if they don't spend money or show off
their assets, house, cars ladies won't pay them any attention which is
TRUE and also ladies because of peer pressure, unavailability of jobs,
recession mentality, hardships believe that money shows love &
caring. Being broke to some ladies is a crime which warrants insults or
As a result, you see ladies make references
like I just met this guy " he drives a benz, he bought me an iPad, he
lives In Asokoro Abuja OMG! He's a nice guy. How do you know he's a nice
guy??? when you never properly courted him. Materialism and Money have
take over in our generation in relationships.
spend 1 kobo on her first, take her on dates, play snake and ladder,
play ludo with her, take her to have drinks or movies. Don't start with
materialistic things. Let's put a stop to Money before Love. Love should
come before money.. DO YOU AGREE?
Letter to Nigerian men: Don't start with spending money or projecting cash to a lady you are interested in - Joro Olumofin
Thursday 14 June 2018